Category Archives: Healing

Like metal forged in the hot flames to become renewed and stronger, we too can be forged to be renewed and stronger in the hot flames of tribulation.

Being Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

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In this after-death communication, Diane gets an important message of how to heal the loss of her mother, from her mother.

Diane writes-
“I had lost my Dad when I was 10 years old in 1958. Mom raised us alone. I lost my Mom in 1999. She was my best friend. I was raising my 4 year-old grand daughter at the time when I had the following experience.

One night, while in bed, my throat was burning from the pain of trying not to cry. All of a sudden my grand daughter who was lying next to me, said, “Grandma. Big Grandma wants to talk to you.” That is what she was called to distinguish the difference between herself and I.”

“Even though we were both in a sleep state at the time, I have this two-way conversation memorized because it was so ingrained in me. The dialogue went like this.”

Me: “Mom is that you?”
Mom: “Yes?”
Me: “Are you in heaven?”
Mom: “Yes.”
Me: “Have you seen Dad?”
Mom: “Yes.”
Me: “I love you.”
Mom: I love you,”
Me: “But, it’s so hard.”
Mom: “Diane. You have to get comfortable.”

Then, she was gone.

My grand daughter also remembers that Mom told her that she wanted to talk to me. It happened while we were both still sleeping. I only remembered it in the morning when I woke up. It has been 31 years and I have never forgotten what happened or the conversation with my Mom. Still, this has given me so much peace.

By the way, when Mom was alive, she saw Dad twice.

Commentary-

The Being Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable Stage

I found that there is a stage in the grief process that falls somewhere after the worst of the worst emotions and before the stage of actual healing. I call it the “Being comfortable with being uncomfortable” stage. The message that Big Grandma said to her daughter about getting comfortable after Big Grandma’s death, gave the perfect introduction to this unique and undistinguished stage of grief.

More about Being Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

It’s not an acute and brutal stage, like some of the others. It seems to exist more in the later experience and analytical deduction of some amount of acceptance. Meaning, the acceptance that what happened happened and there is not much to do about it. But, don’t get me wrong, even though this is a slightly more manageable stage to experience, there is still plenty of grief to go around from time to time.

Is This As Good As It Gets?

Although, it is still nothing that one would choose to feel on a consistent basis, I would describe it as a chronic malaise, sprinkled in with occasional sadness . For me, it was the constant, consistent realization that, considering the magnitude of the loss, this stage might be as good as life gets. My logical response was to settle in and make the best of it.

Keep Going Toward Complete Healing

If someone who is on the grief path is in this place, it might occur like this is the end of the grief cycle. I mean, it’s not too bad. There is still sadness, but nothing like before. It’s doable to stay in this place, however, this too, is just a part of the grief path and it is important to know that, after some time goes by, it is possible to heal completely.

I call this the uncomfortable stage because one is slightly miserable but there is not much to do to fix it. It’s uncomfortable because there has been a fair amount of chaos and trauma that has been experienced thus far that, although it can agitate at times, generally the impact of the experience is in a calming down phase. It’s just uncomfortable. It’s also not like there is anything you can do about it except to experience it.

An Important Point About Healing

To heal completely, it is important to experience all the stages of grief for as long as it takes. Some of them are really painful and some, more uncomfortable. But to not experience the trauma that has so deeply affected you and be willing to give voice to the depth, width and breadth of that loss, difficult as it is… is to either, sweep it under the rug or prolong the pain and take the risk of never being healed. The grief process takes a fair amount of courage and determination. It’s definitely not for sissies!

Not The Worst Thing In The WorldSo, learning to be comfortable with the uncomfortable is not the worst thing in the world. Diane’s mom said it perfectly. “You have to get comfortable.” Death and grief are not going away anytime soon. As part of life, experiencing pain is a part we would rather not deal with. Then, coming to the stage of being able to get comfortable with being uncomfortable serves us and is the next step closer to healing. This is what Diane’s mother came to say and wanted for her daughter the most as she pointed the way to peace and complete healing.

Breaking Through

Pre-Death Communication

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In this Pre-Death Communication, Bob texts a physical message that, after his passing, ends up having an important spiritual meaning.

Julie writes:
“On November 27, 2016, on his way home from his family’s home in Chicago, Bob, my best friend for over 20 years, texted my husband to let him know he was going to take a different route home, so he would still be stopping by to see us, he was just going to be a little later than he thought.”

“What we didn’t know was that while turning around to take a different route immediately after pulling over to send the text, he was T-boned at 55 mph and died on impact.”

Commentary- While it was tragic that Bob was involved in this fatal accident, what is interesting is that Bob’s didn’t leave the planet without communicating. His message was priceless and simple, once you understand what a Pre-Death communication is.

In Bob’s text to Julie and her husband, Bob said all there was to say right before exiting the off ramp via a different route. But instead of heading back the typical way home in this life, he went to his home of homes, heaven.

It’s the context that gives it away. He communicates right before his path abruptly changes and he veers off his expected course.

At some conscious level, Bob was communicating this and also that, although he would still be stopping by to see them, it would be later on. In other words, in an after-death communication or much later on, when they meet again.

What I call a Pre-Death Communication, is when there is a message given that is fairly close to the time before one’s passing, and what is communicated has a multi-dimensional meaning to it.

It’s something that could make perfect sense on the physical plane, as well as the spiritual plane, leaving one to wonder which message was actually intended. Was this communication to us from the physical being? Or… from the spiritual being who knows on some level that one’s Earthly time is about to run out? Maybe even both.

When a Pre-Death Communication happens, there is usually some question of wonder, followed by a deep realization about how the death happened that make those last words completely, fascinatingly suspect.

That last communication can be very valuable, too. First, after a death, there are so many unanswered questions that linger. Perhaps, the circumstances help what happened to make a little bit more sense.

Secondly, It can be healing in some respects to know that your loved one was able to give their physical goodbye to you, for now, as well as… a promise of their words that you will see them later at some point. 

See you later!

See you later!

Are You Still Here?

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In this after-death communication, Bill hears his departed wife’s favorite song repeatedly as a reminder that she has not really departed after all.

Bill writes-
“My wife loved music from the 50’s, 60’s and 70’s. One of her favorite groups was ABBA. She especially loved the song, Dancing Queen. On several occasions, when feeling depressed and missing my wife, I would think about her and suddenly the song, Dancing Queen would play. Here are a few examples of such occasions that come to mind.”

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Seeing Our Departed Loved Ones

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Of all the desired after-death communications one could receive, seeing a departed loved one in the physical realm again, is desired above all.

Since her beloved husband, Art, passed, Sally has been no stranger to after-death communications from him. Each one delighted her in ways that only a visit from Heaven can. What Sally really wanted more than anything though, was to see Art again in her physical world. A tall order for most of us, as well as our departed to achieve.

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Music From the Afterlife

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With songs from beyond, Don has begun singing daily to his sweetheart, Judy, of 61 years past, when their upcoming date was interrupted by his death.

Judy writes:
“Don, the man I was falling in love with goes back over 61 years. He last phoned me, and said, “Judy, I love you.”  We made plans for a date that same night. Tragically, he was killed before we could keep our date.”

“All these years later, I hear music that I believe he is sending to me. Sometimes I am with other people, and I am the only one who can hear the music. Usually, “Judy, I Love you” is part of the music, although the tunes can be different, sometimes very fast and sometimes slow.” Continue reading →

Loneliness After Loss

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Among all the stages of grief, probably the hardest part is the loneliness. The vast missing of a beloved seems to extend forever in all directions for a time.

Art and Sally

Art and Sally were married for 54 years. When Art, suddenly passed away just over a year ago, It broke Sally’s heart. Since then, Sally has been grieving and missing her husband terribly.

Throughout their marriage, Art loved to take care of things for Sally, inside the house… and out. He was very handy, capable and could fix just about anything.

In the warmer months, you could see Art outside, wearing his sun hat, either on his tractor or physically working in the yard around the family house they built for themselves. In fact, he liked hats so much that when they would go on any adventure, he would buy a baseball hat as a souvenir. Continue reading →

Perfect and Whole in Heaven

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In this after-death communication, Lisa’s parents come for an interesting visit that leaves no doubt of their spiritual visitation into her realm.

Lisa writes:
“I’d love to share a wonderful visitation dream I had back in June of 2022. It was extra special because this time, both my mom and dad visited me in my dream. The dream took place in our country home where we once lived together. We hugged and kissed one another. The love was such a comfort to me. I was so happy to see them both together.”

“Lately, I had been cleaning out a storage unit in which I kept the contents of my parents’ home. In the visitation, they both knew this and actually told me that they knew I’d been sorting through things to sell at a yard sale. My mother was thrilled about this. She had always told me not to keep everything.” Continue reading →

When Heaven Comes to Us

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In the last nine days of her brother, Joseph’s life, Marijo and her mother experience a preview of the heaven that awaited their loved one.

Marijo writes:
I was very blessed to experience a beautiful shared-death experience with my younger brother in July of 2021.

Just 8 days prior, he made the decision to pass peacefully in a hospice facility. His body had completely been wrecked by his progressive auto-immune disease and a pathogen found in his lungs after a bout of Covid. His physical body was in failure and he was working with a body that could no longer fight.

For nine days, my mother, Toni, and I sat with him. My mother’s worst fear was he would die alone. My fear was she would be alone to watch him pass. As other family came in and out, we left the room for brief periods to eat, rest, shower, and pray. Continue reading →

Communication with our Departed

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When Carol wonders if the conversations she is having in her head with her departed son, Kyle, are real… she puts it to the test.

Carol writes:
My son, Kyle, passed in May of 2020 at the age of 40 from an accidental overdose. I began having “conversations” in my mind with him a few months later. I was skeptical though, and wondered if it weren’t just my wishful thinking.

So one night I said to him: “Kyle, if it’s really you, send me a different sign right now – that will make me laugh and will be unmistakably you!” No more than a second later, my phone dinged – it was a text from the next door neighbor.

Now, first of all, I never get texts from her – let alone at 10PM! Second, she had been a very nasty neighbor. Kyle, his dad, and I used to joke about misfortune befalling her, e.g. “I hope her tree blows down”, I hope her roof leaks” etc. We would never actually do anything but we did joke about it a lot. Continue reading →

You’ll Never Walk Alone

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As Linda’s perception shifts, so does her pain level. Scarcity thinking is so common in humans that we barely even notice. Notice though. It makes a difference.

Linda writes:
I have been very blessed to have received several after-death communications of various kinds from my beloved soulmate, Thellis, since he transitioned 2 years ago on this very day.

Three of these after-death communications have been documented on Jade’s website.
Visitations Through the Portal, The Power of Sheer Will and The Medicine that is Hope.

In The Medicine that is Hope, I experienced the appearance of a flock of mourning doves in the dead of winter on a snowy morning. It came at a point in which I was so profoundly despondent. I thought that I surely could not survive his being gone and had asked that he please give me a sign of his presence. I had specifically been asking to see a mourning dove, his favorite bird. I also knew this was ridiculous request to be making in middle of winter in Vermont. Continue reading →

“Shedding Light on Trauma”

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A Tribute to Beloved Christian, new personal challenges on the horizon and the “Shedding Light on Trauma” modality, all tied together in one post
Our Beloved Christian

It was on March 31, 2010, that Christian suddenly left this plane. When I think back now, I remember the severe pain and trauma created from his death and what it brought up for me.

At one point, the pain was too deep to describe. My grief had no language yet, to express what I had suddenly been bombarded with. This is a thing, for sure. With so much bombardment, the brain gets scrambled in many different directions. These are some very challenging times without the words. But eventually we do find them again. Continue reading →

A Heartfelt Plea for Unity

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Lisa’s beloved mother, Mimi, once visited her daughter in a mind-blowing after-death communication. Then came, Mimi’s next visit.

Lisa wrote:
“Years ago after my mother passed, you posted the extraordinary after-death communication I had with my mother, called, Mimi’s Heaven. It really rocked my world back then. Well, recently, my mother came back to me in a visitation dream that was even more profound. I’m excited to share it.”

“As with my last experience with my mother, again, she took me through time and space, stopping briefly at nebulas and star clusters to view their glory. This time she reaffirmed to me that God had created all living things, all creatures big and small.” Continue reading →

A Spiritual Intervention

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In a near-death experience, an impending death is interrupted when Ryan’s deceased Grandpa comes in an after-death communication, for the ultimate intervention.

Ryan’s experience

Since the age of 13, Ryan had used some sort of drug or another. He used them for fun or as an escape. By the time he was 33 years old, he had been through drug rehab five times. However, right before having one of the most life-altering experiences one could ever have, Ryan was into one of the most addictive drugs, Heroin.

Ryan lived with his girlfriend and their two small children in his mother’s house. One day, when Ryan’s girlfriend and children were gone visiting relatives and his mom was out of town, Ryan had a profound experience. Continue reading →

Adjusting to a Spiritual Relationship

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Sometime after Kenneth’s husband, Jon, passes away, Kenneth realizes they can still hang out at times.

Kenneth writes:
“My husband, Jon, passed away in June of 2016. I had a very hard with handling him not being here in the physical.”

“It’s been over five years now. I had to realize that just because he was gone, it didn’t mean we couldn’t see each other. To this day, he often communicates with me in my dreams. That is our new way of being with each other. When he is in my dreams we are all over the place- places I don’t know and people I don’t know.” Continue reading →

The Beauty of a Spiritual Practice

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One morning while Jennifer meditates, she is privy to an extraordinary event- her brother’s release from this world and his transition to the next

Jennifer writes:
“On the morning March 31st, I had returned to my bed to meditate quietly as my husband had not yet awakened. I was in a quiet place with my thoughts subsiding and a beautiful indigo blue vision appeared in front of me. Awake but with closed eyes I was overwhelmed with deep calm peacefulness, joy and bliss.”

“The vision was like a balloon inflating and deflating …very deep dark edges and lighter fading into a centre of almost white. It was a light dimming and glowing before me. I felt if I reached my hand out I would feel it but did not want it to go away so I enjoyed the bliss while it lasted, which felt like 2-4 minutes.” Continue reading →