50 Shades of Grief (Process)- Explained

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“50 Shade of Grief (Process) Explained”, is a detailed explanation of the gradual evolution of the many emotional and mental states we have the possibility of passing through, as we travel on the road to grief recovery. Keep in mind, no two grievers are the same; some will visit all of these stops, while other grievers will experience just some of them.

Grieving is a very personal journey. It is also wise to mention, that although there is an order of emotional and mental states to experience, grief can happen in any order. What is common though, is that the first part of this chart is experienced before the last part of the chart.

In the end… this chart represents a successfully completed, grief recovery journey; starting from entering into the long tunnel of darkness… and exiting out the other end; into the light. Continue reading →

50 Shades of Grief (Process)

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“50 Shade of Grief (Process)” shows the gradual evolution of the many emotional and mental states we have the possibility of passing through, as we travel on the road to grief recovery. Keep in mind, no two grievers are the same; some will visit all of these stops, while other grievers will experience just some.

In the end… this chart represents a successfully completed, grief recovery journey; starting from entering into the long tunnel of darkness… and exiting out the other end; into the light.

Blessings on your sacred journey. May you find peace and complete healing at the end of your tunnel.

(Dedicated to the memory of Christian who crossed over on, March 31, 2010, just six years ago today. We love and miss you dearly.)

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A meme which documents the grief process from Shock to Rebirth

Eternal Valentines

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In this after-death communication, Deena receives comfort in many different forms, allowing her to know that her eternal Valentine, John, is still taking care of her… and the cats too!

John

Deena writes:
“I have lost John, my boyfriend, of over 14 years to cancer. He passed away on December 2 , 2015, shortly after he was diagnosed. I am madly, deeply in love with him even though we didn’t have the smoothest of relationships. People referred to us as Taylor & Burton (Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton) as we were always falling out, but we had a passion that everyone saw. We were never apart in all those years.” Continue reading →

That’s What LOVE Does

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Not necessarily a believer before, Ian receives many after-death communications that leave no doubt of his wife, Joanna’s, continued existence, love and support.

Ian writes:
“My beautiful wife passed away on September 4, 2015, unexpectedly. The story of how I met my wife is such a beautiful one, that losing her shattered my entire belief in life. She was the one for me and I for her. We met in a place unlikely for us to fall in love, but we did. She is French/Polish origin while I a Filipino.”

Joanna and baby Maya

“That morning before she collapsed, she told me how she loved Maya Asia, our daughter of 2 weeks then, more than herself, and she also loved me equally. Then, she collapsed while putting back Maya to her crib. She had pulmonary infarction caused by an embolism.”

“I had so many events that have happened that I necessarily did not believe in them, but after all these, I know she has not left me or anyone. She is in a different realm, be it the quantum realm or the spirit world (whatever it is called, but it is beyond the physicality that we currently are in).” Continue reading →

“It Will Be Okay.”

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In this after-death communication, Jessica’s father breaks through to this dimension. After getting her attention by, Jessica has an important dream with a message of comfort.

Jessica writes:
“My father passed away in 2010. He had just turned 57 the day before. I knew he was sick, but I was not ready for him to go. Anyway, I fell into a depression and somewhat of fog.”

“After about a month later, things started happening. A picture fell off the wall. It didn’t break the first night. I checked the nail and it was securely in the stud, so I hung it back up. Nobody heard it fall. The next night, it fell again and shattered the glass. Again, no one heard it. I threw the picture away.” Continue reading →

Messages From the Moth

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In a series of after-death communications, Lucas visits his grieving mother in a variety of different ways – letting her know that her son is still around, being his usual self.

Lillie writes:

Lucas

“I was reading an after-death communication article on your website; specifically physical phenomena. My son, Lucas, died in his bedroom on August 1st, 2015. He was 26 years old. Unfortunately, he died of a drug overdose – he supposedly bought heroin but it was fentanyl and procaine mixed together instead.”

“I was totally shocked when I read it on his cell phone in a text message, because he didn’t do heroin. His friends were shocked too. I guess he was really struggling. His girlfriend broke up with him in June. He became very depressed over that and started acting very strange in July. The doctor had put him on an anti-depressant called Paxil. I thought that was what was making him so strange. I don’t know if the Paxil gave him suicidal thoughts – he was only on it for a month.” Continue reading →

Awakenings Through Loss

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When our loved ones pass away, they leave gifts in their place. It’s for us to discover and use these treasures toward transforming ourselves and our lives.

In the post, The Terrifying Last 18 Days, Keisha describes the grueling final days of her mother’s life and her emotional reactions to it. Sometimes, the course of a person’s health, with its ups and downs, can be quite the emotional roller-coaster ride. Just when Keisha thought her mom was going to live through her medical procedures, her situation took a turn for the worst, leaving Keisha and other loved ones to cope with her eventual passing.

It is not uncommon for the loss of a loved one to create a space for an awakening to happen. When I read something that Keisha had written in reference to one of my other posts, See How You Are?, I could clearly see that Keisha had been privy to such an awakening. Continue reading →

“I Got Hurt, But I’m Alright”

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In the after-death communication and out-of-body experience, Cynthia receives a visit from Jordan, a former neighborhood boy who was shot and killed.

Cynthia writes:
“One of the neighborhood kids, Jordan, was murdered in September of 2015. He was murdered just days after he came to visit us, and we had not seen him in years. He moved away when he was around 11 years old. When he came to visit he was 17. His murder was talked about on the news and while we were trying to piece the puzzle together to see if it was really him, we were shocked to find out it was!”

“I am not 100% on the details of his murder. I just know that he was shot hanging a round guys much older than him and who knows what they were doing? Growing up, his mom was a single working mom and he and his brother were pretty much raising themselves. They were mischievous kids and I am sure it transcended into their teen years also.” Continue reading →

Experiencing Is Believing

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In this after-death communication and out-of-body experience, Linda becomes a believer in the “afterlife” when her son, Erik, meets his mother in another dimension to reassure her of his continued love AND life.

Linda writes-
“Let me first say that before I had this experience, I would not have believed it truly could happen. I had really never heard of such a thing before this.”

“My 24 year-old son, Erik, passed away over 2 years ago. Not long after he died, when my husband and I were deeply grieving, Erik came to me in a dream. I saw him standing there and held out my arms to him expecting him to disappear, but he didn’t! I told him I love him so much and hugged him. It felt like I was actually hugging him! There was a light around him as if he was standing in a soft spotlight. We talked for a short time, but unfortunately, I am not sure of our exact words, although it felt comforting, I do remember that as we were talking, I was rubbing my thumb softly against his cheek and I still remember the sensation of it. He then said he had to go. Before he disappeared, I asked him if it was nice where he was. He smiled a little smile, as if he knew something I didn’t, and said, “Yes, it’s nice. It’s very nice.” Then the dream was over.”

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“Don’t Worry. Everything is Okay.”

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In this after-death communication and out-of-body experience, a grieved mother is reunited with her son. As he held his mother, his message to her? ” I love you too, Mama. Don’t worry. Everything is okay.”

Brian and his pal, Bubba Red

Valley shares:
“In the beginning when I would dream of Brian, I would not be aware that he had died. I’m not sure when this changed, but now, even while dreaming I am aware that he has died.”

“Most of my dreams of Brian are of watching him at some stage of his life. There is no spoken communication or physical touching, just eye contact. I have repeatedly asked to have a dream where I can hug him and talk to him. Well, my prayers were answered a couple of weeks ago. I had the most vivid dream that I have had since he died.”

This is the dream (communication)-
“I drove into the parking lot of his best friend’s restaurant. As I parked my car, I could see Brian through the window tending bar. I got out of my car and ran into the restaurant. I could see him running around the bar to meet me. As I was approaching him, I remember thinking that this would be a regular dream and as soon as I got close to him he would disappear. That did not happen! I grabbed him and hugged him. (I can still feel it.) I said, “Honey, I miss you so much! Do you know how much I love you? Do you know how special our lives are because of you?“ He said, “ I love you too, mama. Don’t worry. Everything is okay.” Continue reading →

Shared-Death Experience

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When I attended Dr. Moody’s presentation for his new book, Glimpses Of Eternity, back in 2010, I had read every book I could get my hands on from him about the afterlife, since he had collected so much evidence with these stories.

Desperately trying to comfort myself from my recent loss, I turned my attention to studying metaphysics, mainly understanding the spiritual aspects of life in the deepest way possible. I knew that without this comprehensive knowledge, I would be swayed to and fro with every opinion that came my way, for there were many. So I studied. Then, I ran what I learned through my own filters. With each premise I thought, “Is this true? Is this something I have experienced myself and can easily testify to?” I had already experienced a large variety of spiritual experiences and metaphysical anomalies throughout my life, so I had a pretty good base. Continue reading →

Flying Formation

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In this after-death communication, Todd gets a visit from the heavens, via a hawk, flying formation, as his recently passed father-in-law, Colonel Gordon William Addy.

After Amy had an after-death communication from her father, who appeared as a Quail in his garage that allowed her to hold him, as recorded in the post, “Hold Me Again“, he visited Amy’s husband, too, as a low flying hawk flying in formation with his truck.

Todd’s experience-
“I was on my way home in my pickup. I was on a rural road and then turned right onto our paved street. It was fully dark, about 8:00 pm, so my headlights were on. As I made the turn – I saw motion to the right and looked at the motion. Something was heading towards the truck. A larger than average hawk flew from the side of the road and in front of the truck. He flew directly in front of me, but just above the hood of my truck. He flew with me approximately 1/4 mile until we got to the house.” Continue reading →

“Life’s Going to be Alright!”

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Rebecca receives an after-death communication from her son, Kenny, after a long time of waiting for one. His message to her? “Life’s going to be alright!”

Rebecca writes:
“It’s been a long while since I’ve dreamt of Ken, other than him being a part of my dream in the background and such. No dreams as of late where I’ve spoken directly to him. The other night, I actually was staring at a candle and asked him to please come in my dreams.”

“Voila! I dreamt that my family was on a plane- the entire family, including Kenny’s dad, his wife and their daughter. We had made it to Nepal and we were traveling to a resort destination. Suddenly, the military police were on the plane and found pot on the pilot so they demanded us to land. We landed in a jungle area and there were a lot of men carrying guns and yelling at us to get on a bus – that the plane would be leaving and we had to travel by bus. They were shouting in English and a different language also. I remember feeling as if I was going to do the wrong thing and being very protective of Nate and Kayla. I didn’t want us to get shot. As we all sat in our seats on the bus, I watched the plane take off and followed it until it was high up in the sky. All of a sudden, I saw the plane pause and start spiraling down and crash into a shopping mall. The gunmen started to laugh at us ‘americans’ and told us that we were lucky to have gotten off the plane before the ‘terrorist attack.” Continue reading →

“Stop Crying. See? I’m Still With YOU.”

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In these visual after-death communications, Bridgette captures some images which let her know that her beloved mother and son, still live on in another plane.

Lady and Man

Bridgette experiences after-death communications on a regular basis since her son, Durell, crossed over on January 26th, 2015, which was a year ago to the day of this post. Armed with her dogs, Man and Lady, her camera and her extraordinary faith and awareness, Bridgette manages to catch images in the successful attempt to connect with those from beyond.

Bridgette writes:
“I start filming when I feel Durell here, or when my dogs are looking hard watching something I can’t see. A couple of weeks after Durell passed, I had a really rough weekend. I sobbed hard for 3 solid days. That Sunday afternoon, my friend, Leslie, (who is the mother of Gian, the 7 year old I told you about that has seen my son several times), told me that she had a dream the night before. In the dream, Durell appeared to Leslie, who is Spanish and doesn’t speak fluent English. When reporting the dream to Bridgette, Leslie said, “Bridgette. Me dream of your baby. He no say nothing. He only smile. Me think he wants me to tell you stop crying.” Continue reading →

“Hello Mom!”

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In this after-death communication, a mother thinks she has received a cruel phone text about her little boy who passed nearly 13 years prior, only to find out this was him, reaching out and letting her know he remembers her and is still with her.

Sharri writes to me:
“My friend and roommate came into my room this morning and tossed her phone to me and she was, to say the least, upset. I looked and she had a text message from a number that we found to be a google account and it said, “Hello Mom.” You see, her son who was born on June 27, 1999 died tragically April 4, 2003, at the age of 4, in her arms. She has no other children.”

“We have called this number and texted it back and nothing. It’s just a voicemail saying,
“This google voice customer cannot be reached at this time. Please leave
message”… This number the message came from is (xxx) 347-9983. Please
help us. She needs answers.” Continue reading →

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50 Shades of Grief (Process)- Explained

50 Shades of Grief (Process)

Eternal Valentines

That’s What LOVE Does

“It Will Be Okay.”

Messages From the Moth

Awakenings Through Loss

“I Got Hurt, But I’m Alright”

Experiencing Is Believing

“Don’t Worry. Everything is Okay.”

Shared-Death Experience

Flying Formation

“Life’s Going to be Alright!”

“Stop Crying. See? I’m Still With YOU.”

“Hello Mom!”