Overcoming fear when receiving after-death communication can be an important thing to confront and understand. It can be out of the ordinary and unexpected.
Nina writes:
“Hello. My darling husband passed away 5 days back. He was suffering from cancer and other medical complications when I had to rush him to hospital. I had to make the most difficult decision of my life to let him go when I knew no amount of trying was going to get him home. I would not let him suffer.”
“I can’t imagine my life without him. I brought my husband’s remains home yesterday. At night I fell asleep in my husband’s favourite rocking chair. I was suddenly woken by the printer randomly turning on and making sounds,
the light in the dining room was on even though I know I had turned off all the lights, I went downstairs to wake my sister who was asleep and the music speaker suddenly came on and the tv stated it was connected even though it was off.”
“I believe this was my husband communicating with me. But I can’t understand why I was so spooked. How do I communicate more with him without being scared?”
Commentary:
First of all, going through what Nina went through would be devastating for anyone. Truly, the loss of a beloved, the empty house where they used to be, the deafening silence that reminds us of the unthinkable… that our loved one is no longer in the physical is excruciatingly painful and very difficult to comprehend.
There is that contemplative quiet one might experience after a passing. Or sometimes it’s the loud frenzied commotion of a brain just trying to make some sense of it all. Whatever the case may be, there are a lot of adjustments in thinking and feeling to reconcile and it takes time and perspective to really begin to heal.
It is a thing that the bereaved can get spooked when they start having signs of communication from the afterlife. It is one thing to deal with a passing and another thing to deal with the mystery and sometimes strangeness of a signal, or series of signals in Nina’s case that her dear husband is desperately trying to communicate his presence to his love.
To answer Nina’s question, I would say that you get used to being visited once it happens a few times. You start to see that there is no other explanation and when you stop to think about everything that a spirit might do to communicate, almost anything might be a little jarring to some degree. That is because it is just out of the ordinary of what we are used to, especially in our now fragile state of mind.
But what it actually is, is that our brain gets scared. When you think about it, what does a finite brain organ know about an afterlife or after-death communication? The physical brain just knows it will die someday as it goes with the physical body. It’s an important distinction to remember that we are not a brain, we just have one that we process our life with. We are infinite beings who are capable of having extraordinary experiences. After-death communications being a part of those experiences.
Turning the fear into faith and the mystery into wonder is a great way to shift the mind set. In doing this, you actually shift from physical brain into spirit mind. What Nina experienced is actually amazing, beautiful and exciting. Hey, if all he can do is work with the electricity in the house, I would say that is a lot! And it was a lot of electrical things that he worked with. It’s like he’s now a spiritual electrician.
Another thing to keep in mind. Many spirits do seem to find a successful way to get our attention and then often stick with that as their communication language. Nina’s darling husband is telling her in every way he can in the moment that he has not gone, but still exists with his relationship in tact with her.
Thank you for the beautiful explanation. I look forward to more communication from my husband and take solace in knowing he is still with me in sprit. I might still get scared for the time being till I get used to it.
It’s a different thing than we are used too. That’s for sure.
Thank you for sharing. May you have many more of them.
Excellent explanation, Jade! I lost my husband to cancer too, Nina. He went quickly after the diagnosis and it was a devastating loss that I’m still adjusting to 12 years later. The night he died was a nightmare, as you can imagine. I finally fell asleep from utter exhaustion but was awakened later by the sound of loud knocking. It seemed to be coming from inside the house. Being wakened to the noises was disorienting and confusing; I searched for the source of the knocking in the dark. Finally, I turned on the light in the bedroom and the knocking stopped abruptly. It wasn’t until the next morning that I realized it had to have been my husband. You see, in the last few weeks of his life, when he slept as much as 20 hours a day, he would knock on the wall of the bedroom when he woke and needed something. I had to listen carefully to hear his faint knocking and go to him. I made the mental connection between that and the knocking I had heard the night before; knocking was his signal. When he was dying, he could only knock softly…but free of his sick, weak physical body, he could knock loudly as if to exclaim, “Babe! It’s ME! I’m well and strong again!”
After that, there were more signs, all in keeping with his unique personality. Our loved ones use whatever method(s) they can find to communicate with us. I hope you continue to receive signs from your dear husband, Nina.
Thats beautiful, Claudia! Very touching. Thanks for sharing that! Xo
Thank you, Jade, for providing this space where we can share our stories of grief and mourning. XO
Thank you Nina, I am happy you can know your husband is still with you. Thank you sharing.
Both these stories left me in tears, but both wonderful experiences with messages. And a beautiful explanation, Jade.