Category Archives: Grief and Mourning

Grief and Mourning is a natural result from the loss of something or someone, known as part of the grief process or cycle.

What’s New for Spring 2016? (Announcement)

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We all know that Spring is a time for many new beginnings, so I’m taking this opportunity to announce that, by popular request, I will be launching some brand new services soon. Aside from the many posts written throughout the years; designed to assist, comfort and support those who grieve, the tools provided on the site, and the commentaries to the many after-death communication, as well as other stories, I will now be offering:

Online Classes such as, the “Being Your Own Medium” series, “Navigating the Emotional Waters of Grief” series, “The Phoenix: Finding Your Life’s Purpose in the Ashes” series, “Finding Strength Beneath the Surface”, “Healing Your Past”, “Have I Lived Before? Past Life Regression” series, as well as… many more online classes to come. To keep updated on the classes being offered, please refer to “Classes” on the homepage navigation bar for further information. Continue reading →

Grieving in Secret

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After Elisa’s secret lover, Eric, suddenly and unexpectedly passes away, she faces the pain, guilt and grief of her loss, alone. 

When Elisa contacted me for help after “her friend”, Eric, unexpectedly passed, like so many other people, in my years of advising people, she didn’t quite give me the full story. What I mean is… she gave me the “safe” story first, while she tested the waters. It wasn’t until she could gauge my response and if she could trust me in not judging her, that she felt safe enough to share the whole story of what happened and why she was so deeply grieved in more ways than usual.

You see, like anyone who fears being judged by others, and the added pain it can bring to an already difficult situation, Elisa was hesitant to tell me that Eric was not just her friend. But after a few emails back and forth, she finally told me that he was her boss, and married boyfriend, too, and that, for many years, she and Eric were involved in a secret relationship.

In her own words, and with Elisa’s permission, I share parts of her emails.
“I am a divorcee, and was pretty happy with my life before him, but he won me over with his charm, his wit, his words and his intelligence. As a busy CEO of many offices, I did not see him everyday, only once a week when he came to his office at my workplace. But, we spoke on the phone every work day! Not long, maybe half and hour, sometimes more. The best thing, which I miss so much are those calls. We sure talked A LOT!” Continue reading →

Stuck in His Own Private Hell

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When Laura happens onto an after-death communication gathering, through a psychic medium, Laura’s father attempts to claim his mistakes and begs her forgiveness.

Laura writes:
“My dad took his life 8 years ago. When he was living, we did not have much of a relationship. He was a mean alcoholic and a son of a bitch. He was an OBGYN as well. I survived a lot of trauma from him through my years; physical and mental abuse.”

“As I grew up and moved away, I really didn’t have much to do with him. I always, though, had a feeling I was molested somehow or that he “did” something to me. But, because I had no memory of it, I could not be sure.”

“At age 48, I went to a ADC gathering with a very powerful medium, named Celena. At this gathering, as she got to me, she gave me a lot of great guidance from my angels/guides. But then she said that my dad needed to say something. I told her “no.” And then my grandmother came through (my dad’s mom), and I asked her to tell me. She said, “It is not to be said in this room of people.” Yikes! I thought!” Continue reading →

“It’s Safe to Believe”

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Experiencing life as agnostic, Rob’s views begin to change when he receives one after-death communication after another, leaving him more of a believer in the afterlife.

Rob writes:
“I was raised by a single parent, my mom, who was a very spiritual and religious woman (Roman Catholic). I am writing this because I lost my mom, December 20, 2015, and begged for a sign… which I got!”

“As a child, my religious background was Roman Catholic. When I was 16 years-old, my views changed to agnostic. That being said, let me share a few of my experiences with the dead.” Continue reading →

Spirit Sensitivity: Gift or Curse?

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In this after-death communication, Celynda is warmly greeted at the cemetery by her Grandmother, only after to be coldly greeted by something else. This post explores how to handle unwanted entities.

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Celynda’s Grandma

Celynda writes:
“I had an experience while visiting my Grandmother’s grave at the cemetery. First, I stopped to see my Grandfather who passed October 1, 2006. Afterward, I visited my Grandmother who passed more recently, September 19, 2012. As I was standing over my Grandmother’s grave, I felt a strong presence holding me. It was the most beautiful, warm and amazing feeling I have ever felt in my life! It felt like she was trying to tell me something or that she knew just how much I needed her…  as lately I’ve been under a lot of stress. She always made me feel so important and would brag to all her friends about how successful I am and how I’m going to be a Doctor.” Continue reading →

“No Son. I’m Alive!”

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In this after-death communication dream, Ali finds himself, out of body, and in an old familiar house, where he finds his mother there waiting for him.

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Ali’s mom

Ali writes:
“My mom passed away in July of 2015, at the age of 83. I woke up this morning to do something and then fell back to sleep. I dreamed that I was in a church with lots of people there. Then all of a sudden, I began to notice they were starting to leave in the middle of a sermon. I followed them outside and noticed I was in my old neighborhood. I started to walk to the old house we used to live in and noticed the back door was unlocked. I walked in, and heard my mother calling my name.  As I turned to look, she walked in the room dressed in white.  So happy to see her, I started to cry and wrapped her in my arms while holding her tightly. I said, “Mom. How could this be?  You died.”  She looked surprised and said to me, “Son, when did I die?” “You died on July 23, 2015!” I said with certainty. “No, son, I’m alive!” It was then I woke up. She looked very healthy. Her hair and her clothing were pure white; a white I have never seen before.” Continue reading →

50 Shades of Grief (Process)- Explained

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“50 Shade of Grief (Process) Explained”, is a detailed explanation of the gradual evolution of the many emotional and mental states we have the possibility of passing through, as we travel on the road to grief recovery. Keep in mind, no two grievers are the same; some will visit all of these stops, while other grievers will experience just some of them.

Grieving is a very personal journey. It is also wise to mention, that although there is an order of emotional and mental states to experience, grief can happen in any order. What is common though, is that the first part of this chart is experienced before the last part of the chart. 

In the end… this chart represents a successfully completed, grief recovery journey; starting from entering into the long tunnel of darkness… and exiting out the other end; into the light. Continue reading →

50 Shades of Grief (Process)

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“50 Shade of Grief (Process)” shows the gradual evolution of the many emotional and mental states we have the possibility of passing through, as we travel on the road to grief recovery. Keep in mind, no two grievers are the same; some will visit all of these stops, while other grievers will experience just some.

Grieving is a very personal journey. It is also wise to mention, that although there is an order of emotional and mental states to experience, grief can happen in any order. What is common though, is that the first part of this chart is experienced before the last part of the chart. 

In the end… this chart represents a successfully completed, grief recovery journey; starting from entering into the long tunnel of darkness… and exiting out the other end;  into the light.

Blessings on your sacred journey. May you find peace and complete healing at the end of your tunnel.

(Dedicated to the memory of Christian who crossed over on, March 31, 2010, just six years ago today. We love and miss you dearly.)

Companion to- 50 Shade of Grief (Process) Explained    (Click image to enlarge)

A meme which documents the grief process from Shock to Rebirth

A meme which documents the grief process from Shock to Rebirth

Eternal Valentines

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In this after-death communication, Deena receives comfort in many different forms, allowing her to know that her eternal Valentine, John, is still taking care of her… and the cats too!

John, Deena's boyfriend

John

 Deena writes:
“I have lost John, my boyfriend, of over 14 years to cancer. He passed away on December 2 , 2015, shortly after he was diagnosed. I am madly, deeply in love with him even though we didn’t have the smoothest of relationships. People referred to us as Taylor & Burton (Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton) as we were always falling out, but we had a passion that everyone saw. We were never apart in all those years.” Continue reading →

That’s What LOVE Does

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Not necessarily a believer before, Ian receives many after-death communications that leave no doubt of his wife, Joanna’s, continued existence, love and support.

Ian writes:
“My beautiful wife passed away on September 4, 2015, unexpectedly. The story of how I met my wife is such a beautiful one, that losing her shattered my entire belief in life. She was the one for me and I for her. We met in a place unlikely for us to fall in love, but we did. She is French/Polish origin while I a Filipino.”

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Joanna and baby Maya

“That morning before she collapsed, she told me how she loved Maya Asia, our daughter of 2 weeks then, more than herself, and she also loved me equally. Then, she collapsed while putting back Maya to her crib. She had pulmonary infarction caused by an embolism.”

“I had so many events that have happened that I necessarily did not believe in them, but after all these, I know she has not left me or anyone. She is in a different realm, be it the quantum realm or the spirit world (whatever it is called, but it is beyond the physicality that we currently are in).” Continue reading →

“It Will Be Okay.”

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In this after-death communication, Jessica’s father breaks through to this dimension. After getting her attention by, Jessica has an important dream with a message of comfort. 

Jessica writes:
“My father passed away in 2010. He had just turned 57 the day before. I knew he was sick, but I was not ready for him to go. Anyway, I fell into a depression and somewhat of fog.”

“After about a month later, things started happening. A picture fell off the wall. It didn’t break the first night. I checked the nail and it was securely in the stud, so I hung it back up. Nobody heard it fall. The next night, it fell again and shattered the glass. Again, no one heard it. I threw the picture away.” Continue reading →

Messages From the Moth

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In a series of after-death communications, Lucas visits his grieving mother in a variety of different ways – letting her know that her son is still around, being his usual self.

Lillie writes:

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Lucas

“I was reading an after-death communication article on your website; specifically physical phenomena. My son, Lucas, died in his bedroom on August 1st, 2015. He was 26 years old. Unfortunately, he died of a drug overdose – he supposedly bought heroin but it was fentanyl and procaine mixed together instead.”

“I was totally shocked when I read it on his cell phone in a text message, because he didn’t do heroin. His friends were shocked too. I guess he was really struggling. His girlfriend broke up with him in June. He became very depressed over that and started acting very strange in July. The doctor had put him on an anti-depressant called Paxil. I thought that was what was making him so strange. I don’t know if the Paxil gave him suicidal thoughts – he was only on it for a month.” Continue reading →

Awakenings Through Loss

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When our loved ones pass away, they leave gifts in their place. It’s for us to discover and use these treasures toward transforming ourselves and our lives.

In the post, The Terrifying Last 18 Days, Keisha describes the grueling final days of her mother’s life and her emotional reactions to it. Sometimes, the course of a person’s health, with its ups and downs, can be quite the emotional roller-coaster ride. Just when Keisha thought her mom was going to live through her medical procedures, her situation took a turn for the worst, leaving Keisha and other loved ones to cope with her eventual passing. 

It is not uncommon for the loss of a loved one to create a space for an awakening to happen. When I read something that Keisha had written in reference to one of my other posts, See How You Are?, I could clearly see that Keisha had been privy to such an awakening.  Continue reading →

“I Got Hurt, But I’m Alright”

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In the after-death communication and out-of-body experience, Cynthia receives a visit from Jordan, a former neighborhood boy who was shot and killed.

Cynthia writes:
“One of the neighborhood kids, Jordan, was murdered in September of 2015. He was murdered just days after he came to visit us, and we had not seen him in years. He moved away when he was around 11 years old. When he came to visit he was 17. His murder was talked about on the news and while we were trying to piece the puzzle together to see if it was really him, we were shocked to find out it was!”

“I am not 100% on the details of his murder. I just know that he was shot hanging a round guys much older than him and who knows what they were doing? Growing up, his mom was a single working mom and he and his brother were pretty much raising themselves. They were mischievous kids and I am sure it transcended into their teen years also.” Continue reading →

Experiencing Is Believing

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In this after-death communication and out-of-body experience, Linda becomes a believer in the “afterlife” when her son, Erik, meets his mother in another dimension to reassure her of his continued love AND life.

Linda writes-
“Let me first say that before I had this experience, I would not have believed it truly could happen. I had really never heard of such a thing before this.”

Erik and Camaro“My 24 year-old son, Erik, passed away over 2 years ago. Not long after he died, when my husband and I were deeply grieving, Erik came to me in a dream. I saw him standing there and held out my arms to him expecting him to disappear, but he didn’t!  I told him I love him so much and hugged him. It felt like I was actually hugging him! There was a light around him as if he was standing in a soft spotlight. We talked for a short time, but unfortunately, I am not sure of our exact words, although it felt comforting, I do remember that as we were talking, I was rubbing my thumb softly against his cheek and I still remember the sensation of it. He then said he had to go. Before he disappeared, I asked him if it was nice where he was. He smiled a little smile, as if he knew something I didn’t,  and said, “Yes, it’s nice. It’s very nice.” Then the dream was over.”

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