Overcoming fear when receiving after-death communication can be an important thing to confront and understand. It can be out of the ordinary and unexpected.
Nina writes:
“Hello. My darling husband passed away 5 days back. He was suffering from cancer and other medical complications when I had to rush him to hospital. I had to make the most difficult decision of my life to let him go when I knew no amount of trying was going to get him home. I would not let him suffer.”
“I can’t imagine my life without him. I brought my husband’s remains home yesterday. At night I fell asleep in my husband’s favourite rocking chair. I was suddenly woken by the printer randomly turning on and making sounds,
the light in the dining room was on even though I know I had turned off all the lights, I went downstairs to wake my sister who was asleep and the music speaker suddenly came on and the tv stated it was connected even though it was off.”
“I believe this was my husband communicating with me. But I can’t understand why I was so spooked. How do I communicate more with him without being scared?”
Commentary:
First of all, going through what Nina went through would be devastating for anyone. Truly, the loss of a beloved, the empty house where they used to be, the deafening silence that reminds us of the unthinkable… that our loved one is no longer in the physical is excruciatingly painful and very difficult to comprehend.
There is that contemplative quiet one might experience after a passing. Or sometimes it’s the loud frenzied commotion of a brain just trying to make some sense of it all. Whatever the case may be, there are a lot of adjustments in thinking and feeling to reconcile and it takes time and perspective to really begin to heal.
It is a thing that the bereaved can get spooked when they start having signs of communication from the afterlife. It is one thing to deal with a passing and another thing to deal with the mystery and sometimes strangeness of a signal, or series of signals in Nina’s case that her dear husband is desperately trying to communicate his presence to his love.
To answer Nina’s question, I would say that you get used to being visited once it happens a few times. You start to see that there is no other explanation and when you stop to think about everything that a spirit might do to communicate, almost anything might be a little jarring to some degree. That is because it is just out of the ordinary of what we are used to, especially in our now fragile state of mind.
But what it actually is, is that our brain gets scared. When you think about it, what does a finite brain organ know about an afterlife or after-death communication? The physical brain just knows it will die someday as it goes with the physical body. It’s an important distinction to remember that we are not a brain, we just have one that we process our life with. We are infinite beings who are capable of having extraordinary experiences. After-death communications being a part of those experiences.
Turning the fear into faith and the mystery into wonder is a great way to shift the mind set. In doing this, you actually shift from physical brain into spirit mind. What Nina experienced is actually amazing, beautiful and exciting. Hey, if all he can do is work with the electricity in the house, I would say that is a lot! And it was a lot of electrical things that he worked with. It’s like he’s now a spiritual electrician.
Another thing to keep in mind. Many spirits do seem to find a successful way to get our attention and then often stick with that as their communication language. Nina’s darling husband is telling her in every way he can in the moment that he has not gone, but still exists with his relationship in tact with her.
