Albana writes to me of her deceased love, Ardit, when he appears in dreams, in two after-death-communications with Albana’s friends.
Yesterday my friend saw Ardit in her dreams. He was staring at a picture of us on the wall, and started crying, saying to her, “We were so beautiful together. How did I go like that and leave her alone?”
On another occasion, a few months later, Albana writes to me, “A strange thing happened. A friend of mine who knew Ardit, just from photos, saw him in her dream. In the dream, Ardit, me and my friend were in a room, but only my friend could see Ardit; I could not. Ardit told my friend, “Tell Albana that I am here with her all the time, and to not cry or be sad for me.” In the dream, I was wearing a pair of shoes, and when I walked they made a lot of noise. Ardit said to my friend, “Please tell Albana to remove those shoes, the noise is driving me crazy!!!!”
Commentary- It is not uncommon for deceased loved ones who want to get a message to the living, to go through other people; friends, family… and even perfect strangers. Perhaps it is the only way they can reach us at the time.
In the first dream, Ardit sorrowfully expresses his perspective on how fragile our existence in this life can be. He shares his regrets about the loss of “what once was”, and “what might have been.” Ardit’s words also point to the shocking eventuality that, even the “once living and full of life,” can so easily depart so suddenly and unexpectedly. Ardit’s words seem to indicate that, he too, is still adjusting to the newness of his death, and what he left behind.
The fact that Ardit appeared to Albana’s friend with a message to give to Albana about his presence in her life, and her noisy shoes, also indicates that, for whatever reason, Ardit was unable to reach Albana at the time, and had to go through Albana’s friend.
Because Ardit is expressing a form of grief in his after-death-communication (sorrow and regret), this suggests that memory and emotion follow us into the next world, for it is the consciousness of the mind that continues on, long after the brain has died. The fact that Ardit feels grief demonstrates that even after death, there is a process through which the dead heal from their losses, as well as the living.
In the second dream, Ardit tries to comfort and reassure Albana. You see, from his perspective, Ardit knows he is always with Albana, even if it is only spiritually. But from Albana’s very physical perspective, she does not always have knowledge of his presence. Because those of us existing in the physical world depend so much on our physical senses for information, it is sometimes difficult to access the ranges of frequencies outside this life’s spectrum. For the range of the frequency of this existence is specific and limited to this physical reality. On the occasion that we tap into higher frequencies, we are more apt to experience a supernatural experience; after-death-communication being one of them.
The noise Albana’s shoes make in the dream, represent Albana’s pain, as she walks forward upon the path of grief to her eventual healing. Ardit, helpless to take away Albana’s grief, waits for the time when Albana heals, and is accepting and peaceful about her loss; for nothing can change what happened. NOTHING! But now, and until that time comes, Ardit wants nothing more than for Albana to be completely happy, yet he must wait until her healing journey is complete.
For the full post on Ardit and Albana’s experience, please read, http://griefandmourning.com/love-continues-on