Flies Are People Too!

On the anniversary of her birthday, a departed Grandma visits her surprised but delighted family in this after-death communication, in a very unusual way.

Donna writes:
“Recently, my son took his little sister and girlfriend to my mom’s grave – it was her birthday. I had to take my other son to the doctor, which took longer than expected, so I couldn’t get to the cemetery. As they were ready to leave the cemetery, my daughter started to cry for her grandma. Then, all of the sudden, a big fly landed on Grandma’s headstone and just sat there! My son started talking to it as it was my mom! They were able to touch it and it didn’t fly away.”

Fly on son's leg

Fly on son’s leg

“My son’s girlfriend called me and told me what they were witnessing. I told her to tell Grandma to come back home with them so I could see her. So, my son talked to Grandma and put his hand on her headstone. The fly began to walk into his hand. Then, the fly flew to his arm. They started to walk back to his car with the fly still in place. When he started driving the fly flew off. They didn’t see it anymore. Then suddenly, his girlfriend spotted it on his leg when they pulled up to the house.

My husband, my other son and myself were outside waiting, and there was the fly! It flew on his steering wheel. My daughter tried to have it land on her but was in the back seat and couldn’t reach it. When she began to cry, the fly flew on her. She was so happy. My other son sat in the back seat to see the fly. A few minutes later, Grandma flew onto him too.”

Fly on daughter

Fly on daughter

Fly on son

Fly on son










“While they were getting out of the car the fly flew on the hood of the car. My son said, “Come in Grandma.” The fly flew on him and came in the house. We had a cheese cake in the fridge. My son’s girlfriend made it a few days before, so I suggested that we sing happy birthday to Grandma. After we sang happy birthday, the fly jumped into a cup full of water in the sink. I quickly grabbed it and placed it on a paper towel but it seemed to have died. My daughter was devastated.”

Fly that came to life again.

Fly that came to life again.

“About 20 minutes later, my daughter walked into the kitchen, went up to the fly and said, “Grandma.” The fly jumped onto its legs and came back to life! It sat in the kitchen on the window sill. This has to be my mom or else, she was definitely able to use the fly’s energy.”

Commentary- Usually, it is a butterfly, bird, dragonfly or hummingbird that we hear about in these after-death communications. But this time… it was a fly that the spirit of Grandma decided to inhabit to appear to her beloved family for a while. Either way, and whatever flying thing it was, completely amazed those in Grandma/the fly’s midst and provided an enormous amount of comfort too.

How sad it is when we lose a loved one and are no longer able to experience the continued physical manifestation of them in our lives. Not only do they seem gone to us, but as special holidays and events continually rotate on the calendar, through the passage of time, we miss them in our family celebrations. We miss them in our daily lives as well. Donna and her family were fortunate this time, for Grandma decided to make an appearance on her birthday! They had cheese cake and sang happy birthday, and as they did, their hearts felt lighter as everyone experienced the miracle of Grandma’s visitation that day, in this after-death communication to them.

This must have been Grandma, as really?.. NO fly behaves like that! Right? But perhaps the most extraordinary thing of the day was the message Grandma was giving to her family. It was in the form of an object lesson. After the fly was here, there and everywhere, landing on most everyone in the family, and was obeying commands, too, sadly, in some unexpected swan song, this special fly plunged to its death into the cup of water in the kitchen sink. After all this joy that Grandma gave her family, why would she do this? What is the meaning of it?

For sure, Grandma was not only sending a valuable message, but a reassurance when this seemingly dead fly sprang to life once more. The message? “Be assured, dear ones. As I once lived, I still live… and always will live on forever, I am not gone, for death is but an illusion.” 

It is easy to be deceived by death’s disguise. We don’t see or hear our departed loved ones as we usually did, so they must be gone, right? We debate with ourselves as to whether the current sign or after-death communication we just experienced was real or if it was just our imagination or wishful thinking. Many times, we succumb to the lesser of these explanations because we are afraid to believe in a something we can not logically explain. But these signs and after-death communications exists nonetheless, they are well-documented, so don’t be fooled by the guise of death. After all… death is just an illusion.

When the next friendly fly buzzes by, Donna’s family may wonder if Grandma is visiting again. What they won’t wonder about is the validity of an afterlife where Grandma is ever-present. In that knowledge, peace can always be found in their sorrow of missing her on this physical plane. For one day, they will reunite.

So next time you think about disrespecting just an ordinary fly, remember that there are extraordinary circumstances in which miracles can occur and bring great joy to those in pain. It is in these special circumstances that… for a time… flies can be people too. Spirit people, that is.

Heavenly Signs

When Liz gets an after-death communication from her father to reveal his presence, she usually sees it in the sky.

Cross in the sky

Cross in the sky

Liz writes:
“My partner and I were on holiday. On our last afternoon we were having a few drinks in a pub and when I looked into the sky, I saw a cloud formation in the shape of a cross. To be perfectly honest, I was thinking nothing profound. Although I do spend a lot of time thinking about my Dad, and talking to God, at this moment we were just sitting there.”

“But this time, I was quick enough to take a picture, unlike the last time. My partner saw it too, unlike the last time. I believe it was something, but why, who, what?”


Cross Close-up

Cross Close-up

“The picture certainly doesn’t look like a coincidental formation. I did a bit of Googling and have seen a few cross pictures, but most have been people trying to make explanations for them. This again, was too clearly something.”

“It’s been over a year, on July 15, since he passed and I’d hoped I’d get something on that day, but I didn’t. I can only feel it (the cross in the sky) was him. It’s pretty clear if you make the picture bigger. Also, it didn’t disappear as fast as the last time, either.”

Commentary- In preparing to write this commentary, I asked Liz if her father was a religious man, to which she said, “Yes.” I thought, “Yep, makes perfect sense to me.”

Many of our departed loved ones give us symbolic signs. Many of them love to use the heavens as a canvas to show the sign to us. Some of these signs include popular examples such as rainbows that appear at the most perfect time, and/or faces, words or symbols that appear in clouds.

In this symbolic after-death communication, Liz’s dad is literally giving her an important sign. He is revealing himself to be in heaven, with God, and wanting Liz to know this. Also, he’s showing that he is looking after her from beyond, even in the most mundane moments of life. He sends his heavenly sign for her to notice, because he loves and cares for his daughter who still remains in this Earthly realm.

So, to me, this well-defined cross in the sky, that Liz just happened to notice, easily answers the questions she asks of who, what and why. 

To read about Liz’s other heavenly sign, “Hi” From Heaven.


Angels of Heaven and Earth

When Amy looks at her childhood Bible, after 40 years, she realizes that one of her deceased ‘Air Force Dads’ has watched over her for years.

Amy writes:



“Last Memorial Day weekend, I had been thinking about all of my Air Force Dads, including my own Dad. In military life, you make fast friends and everyone is close. Several of the men that my dad flew with are like second fathers to me.”

“Captain Carl Hunt was on my mind that weekend. I had been thinking of him as the day approached. Carl died before I ever met him. He died in a training accident in 1959 when a Canadian F-102 collided with the B47 he was in.”


Amy's Parents with Carl's children

Amy’s Parents with Carl’s children

“After his death, my parents took good care of his wife and two children. We are all still good friends today. I’ve taken over looking after Carl’s widow, JoAnne. That was something my parents did and especially my dad until he crossed over. Last summer I went to California to visit Carl’s family. The last day I was there – long story short, JoAnne went into a diabetic coma very early in the morning. Although I was three floors down from her, and was the only one in the house who heard her and woke up, I got the others up so they could call the paramedics, saving her life.”

“Carl is buried in Oklahoma, which is about a 4-hour trip from my house and I was thinking that weekend, that I really needed to go see his burial site as I had never seen it, except in pictures. Carl’s family lives out of state and I felt that someone should go and let him know that we appreciate his military service and he is loved. I remember telling him out loud, “Carl, I’ll get up there to see you and give you the flags and flowers you deserve.”

“Anyway, while having all of this on my mind, I was going through some stuff in my closet and ran across the Bible one of my parents gave me in February 1970.  It had stayed over at my Dad’s house all these years—I brought it home with me when I cleared out his house after his passing.”

Amy's Bible

Amy’s Bible

“You can see in my Bible where I wrote down deaths of loved ones. Though I never met Carl in person— I knew his family, and I knew he was my Dad’s best friend. I had heard all the stories. When I looked in my Bible, I noticed that Carl’s passing had found its way in my Bible, listed along with other loved ones. You can see Dad’s handwriting where he helped me with the date.”

“Meditating over this, I was thinking about going to see Carl’s gravesite. Then, paging though the Bible, I found a 4-leaf clover that I must have put in there as a kid. Meditating more – I opened another page and there was another 4-leaf clover. Then, almost seconds later, I opened up to another one. I have no recollection of putting these clovers in the bible, but I’m sure I put them there between 1970 and 1976, given, that is when we lived in States, where clover is plentiful.”

Amy's 4-leaf clover

Amy’s 4-leaf clover

Amy's clover

Amy’s clover








“I had to get ready to go to a family wedding. I stopped at a store and on the way in, I found a  penny in the parking lot. I get those frequently from Dad. So, this penny assured me that I was having an ADC from Carl, and maybe Dad as well.”

“I went to the family wedding and later that evening I returned to looking at the Bible. Then, I found two (2) more 4-leaf clovers. That is when I KNEW – that Carl helped me collect those 4-leaf clovers over the years. That is when I started snapping the pictures that I include in this post. As you can imagine, the clovers are very dry and fragile so I didn’t want to remove them from their place.  So I took the pictures to document 5 separate clovers in various pages of the Bible.”

“This ADC tells me that Carl was sending me messages when I was a young child. I believe he helped me find those 4-leaf clovers, unbeknownst to me, all those years ago and it was him who helped me find them, pick them and save them to find later on. Maybe Carl liked that I had a small memorial for him in my Bible. Maybe he was just hanging around taking care of his best friend and his family — who knows? But, it is evident to me that he was with me. I didn’t realize this until this past Memorial Day weekend, almost 40 years later! I think Carl waited for the right time to show those clovers to me again. I think he was saying, “Thanks for remembering me.” “Thanks for taking care of my family.” “Thanks for saving Joanne’s life.” And… ” Yes, I’d love for you to come see my gravesite someday.”

Commentary- Christian folk tale tells the story that when Eve was made to leave the Garden of Eden, she took a 4-leaf clover with her to remember her beautiful garden home. It is said that anyone who is lucky enough to possess a 4-leaf clover has a piece of this blessed Paradise. According to some, even finding a 4-leaf clover is so rare that the chance of finding one is estimated at 1 in every 5,000 to 10,000. And, Amy has five? Certainly, with these odds, little Amy had some help.

Carl's Grave

Carl’s Grave

Last Memorial day, the memory of an Air Force father of Amy’s, was specifically in her thoughts. She had never made Carl’s acquaintance because he died before she was born, but there he was, ever-present and on her mind. Being her father’s best friend and having heard all the stories of their youth and time in the service together, Amy felt like she knew Carl, just the same.

Then, with a meditative mind, she started looking through her childhood Bible to find a short obituary honoring this man she never met, along with the lucky 4-leaf clovers. She wondered if her Air Force dad, Carl, was reaching out through time (a space of 40 years), to convey a message to her.

But on her way to a family wedding, when she found the quintessential coin on her path. Her wondering became more of a suspicion, as pennies on Amy’s path have come to represent to her a sign that her loved ones are around, watching over her with love.

It wasn’t until Amy got home and took up her Bible again and she found more 4-leaf clovers that she absolutely knew it was Carl sending her a message. When this type of after-death communication happens, you just know it in your bones. It is a strong feeling or realization that you have been singled out. This “being hit with a ton of bricks” type realization, is so clear that you can’t mistake it. It says, “Pay attention! I’m talking to YOU!”

B47 Carl and Gordon flew

B47 Carl and Gordon flew

After Carl’s B47 plane accident, Amy’s family took Carl’s family under their wings, to support, encourage, protect them in their time of need. Although Amy’s folks have crossed over already, Amy continues this act of love, even today. Throughout the years, I’m sure Carl, along with his family consider the constant love and caring for them a Godsend; as truly Amy’s family have been Earth Angels, doing what Earth Angels do.

I wonder. What if… besides watching over his own family from beyond, Carl was a guardian angel for his best friend, Gordon Addy’s, family too. Because… that’s what Guardian Angels do. What if Carl is a Godsend who watches over the families he loves? Supporting, Encouraging and Protecting them, the way the Addy’s did for his family. This seems to be the case.

Carl's Family

Carl’s Family

For sure Carl has always been grateful for the great love and care given to his family after his passing, especially that Amy saved his wife, Joanne’s, life. I’m sure, while saying thanks to Amy, and indicating he was around recently, as well as so many years ago, helping Amy find those 4-leaf clovers which are a symbol of the paradise that Heaven is, this Air Force Dad also inadvertently revealed his cover as her Guardian Angel, too.

An interesting side note- Five months after Amy submitted her experience to me, and me being very busy with many other posts at the time, just recently I was prompted by a strong feeling to immediately start working on this post for Amy. I sent her a text notifying her of such and asked her a few questions for clarification. This is what Amy wrote back. 

Honorable Mention of Carl

Honorable Mention of Carl

“It’s interesting you texted me. I visited a memorial at Little Rock AFB this past weekend. Here is Carl’s name. The Air Force got his name incorrect on this. Should be Carlton. Everyone called him Carl.”

“I felt Carl’s presence earlier today. No lie. I talked to him out loud and said, “Carl, I never met you but I know you love me.” I sent these pictures to his daughter yesterday and she was thrilled, said she had never seen her dad’s name listed on any memorial. So in some way, Carl is making sure we know he is around.”


B47 Amy's father flew

B47 Amy’s father flew

“This is the plane he had the accident in. B47. My dad also flew this plane. The plane is the actual plane my dad flew. The tail number ties back to flight logs. It’s huge and hard to get in one photo.”

“….Then, you text asking these questions – the exact weekend I was visiting his memorial site at Little Rock Air Force Base?  Not a coincidence. He was with you as you were writing about him and was with me as I was getting pictures of his memorial for his family.


Carl's Family

Carl’s Family

Carl's Family

Carl’s Family

Carl's Family

Carl’s Family

High Flight Honor for those who died in B-47 accidents

High Flight Honor for those who died in B-47 accidents

Memorial for Gordon Addy- Amy's Dad

Memorial for Gordon Addy- Amy’s Dad

Eclipsing Life

As the moon passed over the sun in August’s eclipse, my cousin, Craig, peacefully eclipsed this life.

Throughout his adult life, my cousin, Craig, had his share of health issues, stemming from Cancer, to Lyme’s disease, to Multiple Sclerosis. Being a Scientist, whether it was a macrobiotic diet or something else he tried, he always found ways to either heal, or at least keep these diseases at bay. But, later on in his life, Craig came to experience complications from some of these debilitating diseases that left him struggling and unable to overcome.

It was February of 2017 when things took a turn for the worse. Craig came down with an infection that he couldn’t shake. The writing was on the wall. His loved ones knew his inevitable passing was closing in on both, him and them.

Recently, in August, as Craig was fading in and out of consciousness, he was talking out-loud to unseen people. Shannon, his wife and a nurse as well, must have wondered who he was talking to, and what it all meant. Then suddenly, Craig piped up with some coherence and excitement to say, “Hi Margaret!” This was Craig’s Aunt Margaret, who, while alive, was always a nice motherly figure to her brother’s children. Margaret passed away over a decade ago.

So when Shannon heard Craig’s coherent response to an unseen being, who was obviously Aunt Margaret, she suddenly had the clarity of mind to say to Craig, “Follow Margaret!” And… he immediately did.

Sadly, for us, Craig left this realm on August 21, 2017.

It is commonly known that a deceased loved one comes to receive us from this world and escort us to the next. But not everyone has this comforting first-hand witness, as did Shannon. If this was not amazing enough, it was WHEN it happened, that made Craig’s sojourn from this world into the next, extraordinary.

Since Craig was a Scientist, no doubt he found the coming eclipse fascinating. In fact, some of his friends, who live across the United States in Utah, knew he would appreciate it when they wrote to tell him about their plans of traveling to Idaho to get the full effect of this solar eclipse.


solar-eclipse-2017 Pixabay

Well… it just so happened that while his friends were gazing into the heavens and getting a good look at the eclipse, along with everyone else who could view it, Craig crossed over during this amazing time of awe and wonder!

It was just a few months earlier that my Aunt Catherine was resting in her bed with open eyes, when she saw her son, Craig, walk by her! What did it mean, she thought? Was he coming for a visit? Had he already crossed over? Am I imagining this?

While all of these were valid questions to wonder about at the time, now we can see that it was most likely that Craig was loosened out of his body, and traveling across the States to his familiar childhood home to see his mom. In this case, it was probably a sign to his mother that Craig’s time on Earth was wrapping up and he was getting ready to fly away from this physical existence and the 28-year battle with disease in his body that weighed him down.

But… for those who knew and loved Craig, and, who also thought the eclipse was incredible, it was even more incredible that Craig chose this particular time to make his journey from this stage of life.

Watching the eclipse, myself, then, hearing about Craig’s passing after the fact, his timing made perfect sense to me. As the Scientist he always was, and with his crossing over at that particular time, I thought… in an amazing and profound way, as the moon eclipsed the sun, Craig eclipsed this life when he crossed over to the next realm.

Although Craig will be missed, he is pain-free now. Fly Craig, fly! Our thoughts of love are with you, always. Until we meet again…

photo credit: Geralt/Pixabay

photo credit: Geralt/Pixabay

Death… Our Greatest Adventure Yet!

Although 80 miles away, Jo experiences the final moments of her father’s transition from life to death in an extraordinary send off.

Jo writes: “On the night of 29 September 2013, I was asleep in my bed in north London (England), and my father was over 80 miles distant, in a dementia nursing home on the south coast.  I was jolted awake at around 1:30am, and sat up in the darkness.  A tremendous, intense, unworldly, rushing energy had filled the room.  I couldn’t see it, but I could sense it, and it was ‘sparkling’.  “Dad!” I exclaimed.  I knew it was him.  And I knew that he was dying, and that had come to me to help him push over.  And somehow I knew what he needed, and what I had to do.  I concentrated all my energy, and wished him all the peace and love and energy that I had in me – and forgiveness – and it felt both personal and universal.  I do not know how long this went on for as time stood still.  And then I lay back down and I looked through the portal in the back of my eyes* and I saw a vision of the light – that clichéd image – a giant door-shaped hole in the darkness, and silhouetted against it were countless figures, outlined by the light, all slowly streaming toward it.  And I felt very great peace, and I drifted from this vision back into sleep.”

“The following morning I awoke early and immediately phoned the nursing home.  I apologised for the hour (it was just past 6am) and asked for a report on my father.  After a pause the nurse came to the phone and informed me that Dad had died.  I asked when he had died, and she replied that they had checked on him at 1:00am and he was alive, but that when they checked on him at 2:00am he had passed over.”

“I firmly believe that I was sharing my father’s death experience.  And several things have happened since involving him, that have made me appreciate what he taught me about Jung’s idea of an Unus Mundus.  I am not religious, but what I experienced that night has profoundly affected my thinking.

“*When I was about four or five, I discovered that I could ‘travel’ in my mind – a trick I have retained to this day.  I find it very soothing as I drift off to sleep.  I refocus my eyes while my eyes are shut, until I get a steady stream of concentric purple ‘smoke rings’ that consistently form and fade into the distance – then I concentrate on the space within the rings and this becomes a portal through which I can see visions.  Sometimes it’s as if I am flying over strange, unknown landscapes at great speed, at other times I see people – faces – of whom I know not.  I also had some incredibly vivid dream premonitions at this time, which I remember just as vividly, and which have made more and more sense to me over the years.”

Commentary- Jo has quite the gift. She has had it since she was a child and as she grew, just thought that everyone had it too. She is easily able to have out-of-body experiences as well as view incredible spiritual visions. As she knows, this type of thing comes in handy when you are fortunate to witness the death and rebirth of a loved one’s passing into a new realm.

What Jo was able to participate in is called a shared-death experience. In this experience, she witnessed the details of her father’s journey from this life to the next and just how amazing of a adventure it really was. I’m sure this left Jo feeling quite peaceful, knowing that her beloved father was free to fly from the physical chains that held him Earthbound in his later days.

In her experience, Jo mentions the term, Unus Mundus, which was coined by Carl Yung, a prominent Swiss psychiatrist who lived between 1875 until 1961. Unus Mundus is Latin for “one world.” More about Unus Mundus in Jung’s own words.

“Psyche and matter exist in one and the same world, and each partakes of the other, otherwise any reciprocal action would be impossible. If research could only advance far enough, therefore, we would arrive at an ultimate agreement between physical and psychological concepts.”

“Since psyche and matter are contained in one and the same world, and moreover are in continuous contact with one another and ultimately rest on irrepresentable, transcendental factors, it is not only possible but fairly probable, even, that psyche and matter are two different aspects of one and the same thing.”

If you had a hard time following that, he is a psychoanalyst after all, basically, he is saying that the inner world of our psyche and the external world of our experiences are connected in a meaningful way. This is also known as synchronicity, which he defined as “meaningful coincidence.”

Jo’s shared-death experience is an excellent example of this. She had this inner psychic experience, knowing that her father was crossing over and needed her help, only to find out the next morning that, 80 miles away from her, his physical death did indeed play out at the exact same time. Coincidence? No, it’s all in the synchronicity that our inner and outer worlds are undoubtedly connected as “Unus Mundus.”

What an amazing parting gift he gave his daughter, Jo, upon his crossing over from one world to the next. In writing this, I had a thought, which caused me to pause, about Unus Mundus. Although the world Jo’s father left and the one he went to seem to be separate and different to many of us, perhaps they are both a part of “One World”, still, and from this Earthly view, we just don’t have the perception to see it this way.

Jo caught a good glimpse of the death her father’s spirit and what world he was transitioning to. For her, it was enough to make her view death in a completely different way. Jo continues to say, “The experience affected me profoundly, and has completely changed my attitude towards death. That what comes next is not just a mystery, but a huge adventure.” 

Jo's Dad and Jo

Jo’s Dad and Jo

Shedding a Tear

As Shenique and her son say goodbye to their beloved husband and father at his viewing, he says goodbye back to them in the most unexpected way.

Shenique writes:
“Have you ever heard of a dead man crying for real? Well, it has been 8 years since my husband was killed. At his viewing, when my son and I said our last goodbyes, a tear came from my husband’s left eye. It was clear as day! Would you happen to know the meaning or what he was telling us?”

Commentary- Although it would seem unusual for a tear to fall from a departed loved one’s eye, stranger things have happened. The tear drop is a symbol of emotional expression. In this case, some messages of expression could be, “I’m sad my life ended so soon.” “This wasn’t supposed to happen this way.”  “I’m sorry you will have to go through the pain of this.” “I’m Sorry to Leave You.” “I’ll miss you and the life we had together, dearly.” and ” Goodbye for now.” Continue reading

Still Here… 40 Years Later!

In this after-death communication, Kathi receives an auditory visit from her beloved brother, Kenny, who passed away 40 years prior. 

Kathi writes:
“My brother passed away in 1977 of a very rare disease. We were very close. After his death, I had many dreams of swimming in the ocean together, birds sitting and watching me, and twice of being escorted into a room somewhere in the heavens, where he was sitting in a chair waiting. I saw only from the waist up. We talked about family, life etc.” Continue reading

Amy’s Coin Collection

The well-known after-death communication of “coins left on our life’s path” can be a ‘valuable’ way for our departed loved ones to remind us they are always with us.

Amy's coin collection

Amy’s coin collection

Amy writes:
“Hi Jade. These are all the coins I’ve been sent the past two years. 23 pennies, 6 dimes and 1 nickel. I know they (the departed) like to leave coins.”

“This is so much like my Dad. He would save his pocket change in a coffee can and give it to his grand daughters when it was full.”

“The coins were all found in times of joy, sorrow and worry. But always in a unique place where I would find them… and just when I needed them.”

“This has been a hard month for me. My father crossed over on March 20, the first day of Spring. It’s been two years since his passing. The first day into a new refreshed body and spirit is how I like to look at it.” Continue reading

Between Two Worlds

In an emergency to save her life, Rebecca has a close call as she hovers between two worlds with her departed son and mother. 

Last October, Rebecca began to have some pain in her body. After visiting her doctor in January, both figured it was not too serious and just chalked it up to some premenopausal issues.

Recently, Rebecca woke up in severe pain which was so bad that she was rushed to the hospital in an ambulance. As it turned out, the unknown 8cm mass on Rebecca’s ovary ruptured and infection spread throughout her body. Needing to have two different surgeries to repair the damage, Rebecca was constantly being injected with opiates much stronger than Morphine. Even though she was not a big fan of opioids, they proved to be necessary for her to deal with her extreme pain level. Continue reading

“Hi” From Heaven

In this after-death communication, Liz’s father says “hi” from the heavens, as her name is literally written in the sky.

Liz writes:
“On a weekend last November, my partner and I were walking up the road. It was 11 am on a beautiful sunny day with a clear blue sky. I looked up and saw just one tiny white cloud. Across the sky to my right there was another one – it had formed the name Liz, which is my name. I looked to see what was coming next as I immediately thought it was an airplane sign-writing in the making. (We have a few of these here with people proposing marriage in grand ways).  Continue reading

An Unexpected Visit

In an after-death communication, Amber, a self-proclaimed atheist, receives a message of love and comfort from her mother on the “other side.”

Amber writes:
“My Mother died in 2015. As my last living family member and with the Mother- Daughter connection that we shared, the first year has been the saddest in my 55 years of life. However, I take sweet comfort in her love for me, and in a moment after her death that I hold close to my heart.”

“It was one month after her passing. I had another day of steady tears and inconsolable sadness. The huge thing was simple: she was gone and I was alone without her. I came home exhausted from the day, sat on the couch and continued my sobbing. Then, I heard her! She said, in a voice I remember as that of how she sounded when she was in her 30s, not the weakened tone of her 78 year-old dying of cancer self. (And this is something in and of itself; that she spoke with a healthy young voice. If I was to create a message in my head from her, I would never have thought to change her voice to her younger days.) And what she said was exactly enough – not one extra word needed to be spoken. “Amber, I love you. I am here with you.”
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Taking Control of the Holidays

I know experiencing the holiday season without our loved ones can bring up a lot of emotional stuff. That’s bound to happen. But just a few quick ideas about how to navigate the holiday season to make sure that YOU are powerfully in charge.



Customarily, Thanksgiving is a time to be thankful and to show our gratitude. I recommend taking some quiet time during the day to write a letter to your loved one. In it, you could express your gratitude for them and what they contributed to your life. You might even place a token or offering (something meaningful) for them with your letter as you put it in a special place; a self-made altar, a drawer or decorative box that holds the things of theirs that you treasure. Oh sure, you may have a good cry, but let it all out. Crying is the body’s natural way to release pain and the process of letting the tears out creates brain chemicals that will help us to feel better each and every time we cry. Crying won’t hurt you, it will heal you. So don’t be afraid of those tears, or even those emotions that are causing those tears. Feel what there is to feel. It’s okay. Continue reading

Grieving Pets

When Charlie’s master, John, passes from this Earth, this loyal and beautiful doe-eyed kitty-cat sits at the window each day, awaiting his return home.

Deena, John’s long time girlfriend, recalls her sweetheart, John, and his loyal female cat named Charlie:



“John always had a love for animals. When his father died, John left grammar school to become a farmer, which he did for the next 20 years of his life. During his farming career, he had several run ins with the local policeman who kept telling him not to keep the tractor running as he kept jumping on and off of it, because it was against the law to do so. One day, this policeman told John that he would make a good policeman. Soon after, John quit the farm and joined the police Academy where he was a very good police officer for 31 years! John was one in a million.” Continue reading

Grief Compounded

Shortly after Margaret lost her Father, Arthur, who I wrote about in the last post, “The Present”, there was another sad loss of life that further compounded her grief.



Margaret writes:
“We had another very sad loss over the weekend which was compounded by many factors. My husband, Joe, let ICE, our beautiful 3-year-old pit bull out at 5 am. She went after a lizard and fell into the deep end of our pool. She went straight down. It all happened right in front of him. Somehow Joe was able to get her out and tried to do CPR but couldn’t save her. So there is shock and guilt and a lot of grief. There is no answer or explanation to find comfort.”


Angela and ICE

Angela and ICE

“I have not had a dream about my Dad since he died 3 months ago, until this happened. I went back to sleep at 10 am after this horrible incident and had this dream. My daughter, Angela, was talking to my Dad on the phone. I told her to ask him if he had our dog, ICE. (In my dream, I think both my Dad and ICE were alive).She asked him and turned to me to say, “Pop pop has her!” Without really thinking about it, I said, “OK, let’s go get her!” In my dream, we were on our way to meet my Dad to pick ICE up, but I woke up before we got there. Strange, yet not.” Continue reading

The Present

When a powerpoint, “The Present” arrives in an email for Christmas, Margaret’s mother is forced to believe that this was sent from her deceased husband, Arthur.

Margaret writes:

Margaret's Mom & Dad

Margaret’s Mom & Dad

“My Dad passed away on September 21, 2015. Although he was 85 years old, it was sudden and unexpected. We were extremely close and I was/am devastated.”

“My Mom was a rock after my Dad died. She seemed to be busy tending to things like canceling Dr.’s appointments, writing letters, sorting through things, etc. I wondered what would happen when there was nothing further to do. She is a very strong woman and far less emotional than I am.”

“Christmas was difficult and when I called her, she seemed sad on that day, although she was doing her best to put on a good front, trying to comfort me. There was just something different that day and although she would never admit it, I could sense it. I miss my Dad every day, but Christmas seemed even harder. He was everything to me.” Continue reading