After-Death Communication (ADC) is, as the name implies, a communication between the living and the deceased. Also, as indicated in the name, it implies that the deceased are not really dead, as we know it, but living somewhere in another realm without their physical body. And, truth be told, the deceased would probably say they were experiencing even more aliveness than when they were living in the physical world! At least, that’s what I’ve been told!
After-Death Communications may seem a little creepy to those who have watched too many bad movies on the subject. And since there is so much we can’t understand, many misconceptions are possible.
But to those who have had this amazing form of communication, the experience can be extremely inspiring, healing and life transforming. An ADC is a lifeline that can give so much comfort and peace to a grieving heart and mind.
From the beginning of time, people have experienced ADC’s, and thank goodness for them!! Broken hearts and traumatized minds have been completely healed with one powerful after-death communication that says everything the griever would need to find peace. Usually they receive messages such as, “I’m happy now”, “I love you”, “I’m pain-free”, “Please forgive me”, “I’m always with you”, “We will be together again”, “You will be fine”, “It’s only goodbye for now” and “It’s time to move on, everything will be alright.”
It seems obvious from the deceased loved one’s greater perspective, that there really is no separation between them and us, but from our limited perspective, the separation is ALL we experience and the emotions felt can be brutally painful.
People may ask, “Why doesn’t my loved one come to me with an ADC?”
It is most likely that they have… and still do!
Many times, because of our sorrow, there is no room for them to get through to us. The sounds of grieving are so loud inside our heads, that we can’t hear anything that’s not that. When there is a momentary pause and they do break through, we may mistake their presence as a past memory of them. By being reminded of how much we miss them, painful wounds that are trying to heal begin to open again.
Believe me, our loved ones don’t want to cause any more pain than is already there, so they look for other ways to connect to us instead. It could be in the words of a song, or in the lines of a movie you somehow feel were written for you! They could visit you in a dream. Twilight hours, before you wake up In the morning is a common time for them to appear, for it is more likely that you will bring the contents of that world into this one. This is one reason it is important to have paper and pen by your bedside. The ethereal material these dreams are made from tend to fade away quickly in this realm without documentation.
An ADC may come to you through another person. Although, on some level, it may be frustrating that they didn’t come to you, try not to discount the message or the attempt. We cannot see the big picture with such a limited perspective. Just trust that they are doing their very best.
An example of third-party communication can be found in my post, Kevin’s Journey Into the Light. I often wondered why I was the one who had this opportunity with Kevin. After all, I hadn’t seen him in years, and there were those at the time, who were much more involved in his life. But, that being said, that was the point! I was a clearer channel for this S.O.S. that was being broadcast. In this spiritual emergency, Kevin was in a pickle. Unknown to him, he was dead (at least by our standards) and stuck between two worlds! He needed someone to persuade him of his situation fast!
Don’t get me wrong. I was more than grateful to be of service. I wouldn’t be telling his story if I hadn’t, and I’m glad to report that Kevin’s journey to the light was a successful one!
There is so much on this subject that I will eventually write, but I would love to include here, the categories of ADC’s as distinguished by the pioneers and researchers, Bill and Judy Guggenheim. Their book, Hello From Heaven was a Godsend to me! I am grateful for the copious amounts of information they have uncovered, and the light this knowledge has brought into a sometimes very dark world!!
Based on their research, these are the twelve most frequent types of ADC’s people report having with their deceased loved ones:
Sensing a Presence: This is so subtle that people dismiss it as their imagination and mistake it as a wish, when really…. your loved one is right there beside you. With this sensing comes a distinct feeling that your loved one is close, even though you can’t hear or see them.
Hearing a Voice: While some people can actually hear an external physical-like voice, others hear a telepathic one. It is even possible to carry on a whole conversation in this way.
Feeling a Touch: Your loved one may touch, hold or kiss you. These are ways your loved one can comfort you and show their love.
Smelling a Fragrance: You may smell a scent that is associated with your loved one. It could be perfume, cologne, grandma’s rose-scented face crème or uncle Jack’s pipe.
Visual Experiences: You may see your loved one from the range of a mist to a solid form! They may come as a partial body to a full body image. Many occur next to or at the foot of the bed, but it can happen anywhere. Loved ones appear to look slightly different, as in younger, or can look the same as when they died. Typically they will appear expressing love in their countenance. They appear healed and whole, even though they may have died a disfiguring death. Anything from telepathic to verbal communication may take place, but not always.
Visions: It is possible to see an image of your loved one in a window, a mirror, or a picture. They could appear in meditation, or some other altered state. It’s not uncommon for them to appear suspended in the air in front of you. They may appear for minutes or seconds, and can be seen with eyes open or closed.
Twilight Experiences: These states occur in the alpha state when you are falling asleep, waking up, praying or meditating. It seems to be easiest for them to connect to us at these times.
ADC Experiences While Asleep: These dream-like states are different from regular dreams. These sleep states seem more real than other dreams, and sometimes, even more real than life! These ADC’s are more colorful and intense. It is not uncommon to have a two-way conversation with your loved one there. The experiences are fluid and make sense, as opposed to the usual abstract hodge-podge of fragmented dreams.
Out of Body ADC’s: Believe it or not, it is actually possible to leave your body to visit your loved one. You may be meeting by the ocean or in a field of beautiful flowers. The scenery appears more intense, vivid and real than this life. Usually, this place is filled with beauty and love and things seem to glow with light. An OBE can be triggered by a meditative or altered state. People who practice astral projections are said to have visited many of these places.
Telephone Calls: Hard to believe, but these ADC’s can happen when you are awake or asleep. The phone rings and you answer. Your loved one is on the other end talking to you. They may ask you how you are doing, just like they used to. They may just be calling to give you a message. The voice may sound near or far away. Sometimes a two-way conversation is possible. Whatever you do, don’t make the mistake of telling them it’s a bad connection and you will call them back!!! Would you know their number? This happens much more often than you can imagine! When the call is over, you may hear nothing or a dial tone.
Physical Phenomena: When these occur, lights flicker; electrical stuff can turn on and off. Pictures can turn over or fall off the wall or for some reason the clock that hasn’t worked for years – mysteriously starts chiming again. You can take these as signs that your loved one is stopping in to say, “I’m here!”
Symbolic ADC’s: These are experienced as signs. Rainbows, butterflies, humming birds, other birds, certain animals and flowers that in some way represent the deceased person or a reminder of a happy memory associated with them. These usually appear to give us hope, as if some unseen someone is saying, “I’m still here!”
I’m so thankful that our deceased loved ones have opportunities to comfort us with their periodic reassurances of hope and love. Although they can’t continually make themselves know to us, we can be peaceful in knowing that they still exist, along with their love for us.
May this knowledge calm our hearts and minds. May it uplift our spirits that we find peace. And… may we trust and believe what our human senses can’t even begin to understand or comprehend.
*To read the after-death communications that have been collected on this site, please also see after-death communications.
*Interested in connecting with your departed? The upcoming, “Being Your Own Medium” Series online Tele-class that starts up again October 6th and 7th, 2016. For more information, click here. It’s a great class! Don’t miss it.
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