Grieving in Secret

After Elisa’s secret lover, Eric, suddenly and unexpectedly passes away, she faces the pain, guilt and grief of her loss, alone. 

When Elisa contacted me for help after “her friend”, Eric, unexpectedly passed, like so many other people, in my years of advising people, she didn’t quite give me the full story. What I mean is… she gave me the “safe” story first, while she tested the waters. It wasn’t until she could gauge my response and if she could trust me in not judging her, that she felt safe enough to share the whole story of what happened and why she was so deeply grieved in more ways than usual.

You see, like anyone who fears being judged by others, and the added pain it can bring to an already difficult situation, Elisa was hesitant to tell me that Eric was not just her friend. But after a few emails back and forth, she finally told me that he was her boss, and married boyfriend, too, and that, for many years, she and Eric were involved in a secret relationship.

In her own words, and with Elisa’s permission, I share parts of her emails.
“I am a divorcee, and was pretty happy with my life before him, but he won me over with his charm, his wit, his words and his intelligence. As a busy CEO of many offices, I did not see him everyday, only once a week when he came to his office at my workplace. But, we spoke on the phone every work day! Not long, maybe half and hour, sometimes more. The best thing, which I miss so much are those calls. We sure talked A LOT!” Continue reading

Stuck in His Own Private Hell

When Laura happens onto an after-death communication gathering, through a psychic medium, Laura’s father attempts to claim his mistakes and begs her forgiveness.

Laura writes:
“My dad took his life 8 years ago. When he was living, we did not have much of a relationship. He was a mean alcoholic and a son of a bitch. He was an OBGYN as well. I survived a lot of trauma from him through my years; physical and mental abuse.”

“As I grew up and moved away, I really didn’t have much to do with him. I always, though, had a feeling I was molested somehow or that he “did” something to me. But, because I had no memory of it, I could not be sure.”

“At age 48, I went to a ADC gathering with a very powerful medium, named Celena. At this gathering, as she got to me, she gave me a lot of great guidance from my angels/guides. But then she said that my dad needed to say something. I told her “no.” And then my grandmother came through (my dad’s mom), and I asked her to tell me. She said, “It is not to be said in this room of people.” Yikes! I thought!” Continue reading

“It’s Safe to Believe”

Experiencing life as agnostic, Rob’s views begin to change when he receives one after-death communication after another, leaving him more of a believer in the afterlife.

Rob writes:
“I was raised by a single parent, my mom, who was a very spiritual and religious woman (Roman Catholic). I am writing this because I lost my mom, December 20, 2015, and begged for a sign… which I got!”

“As a child, my religious background was Roman Catholic. When I was 16 years-old, my views changed to agnostic. That being said, let me share a few of my experiences with the dead.” Continue reading

Spirit Sensitivity: Gift or Curse?

In this after-death communication, Celynda is warmly greeted at the cemetery by her Grandmother, only after to be coldly greeted by something else. This post explores how to handle unwanted entities.

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Celynda’s Grandma

Celynda writes:
“I had an experience while visiting my Grandmother’s grave at the cemetery. First, I stopped to see my Grandfather who passed October 1, 2006. Afterward, I visited my Grandmother who passed more recently, September 19, 2012. As I was standing over my Grandmother’s grave, I felt a strong presence holding me. It was the most beautiful, warm and amazing feeling I have ever felt in my life! It felt like she was trying to tell me something or that she knew just how much I needed her…  as lately I’ve been under a lot of stress. She always made me feel so important and would brag to all her friends about how successful I am and how I’m going to be a Doctor.” Continue reading

“No Son. I’m Alive!”

In this after-death communication dream, Ali finds himself, out of body, and in an old familiar house, where he finds his mother there waiting for him.

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Ali’s mom

Ali writes:
“My mom passed away in July of 2015, at the age of 83. I woke up this morning to do something and then fell back to sleep. I dreamed that I was in a church with lots of people there. Then all of a sudden, I began to notice they were starting to leave in the middle of a sermon. I followed them outside and noticed I was in my old neighborhood. I started to walk to the old house we used to live in and noticed the back door was unlocked. I walked in, and heard my mother calling my name.  As I turned to look, she walked in the room dressed in white.  So happy to see her, I started to cry and wrapped her in my arms while holding her tightly. I said, “Mom. How could this be?  You died.”  She looked surprised and said to me, “Son, when did I die?” “You died on July 23, 2015!” I said with certainty. “No, son, I’m alive!” It was then I woke up. She looked very healthy. Her hair and her clothing were pure white; a white I have never seen before.” Continue reading